Temper Tantrums of Child: Why & What to Do?

Temper tantrums include behaviours like yelling, biting, crying, kicking, throwing objects, head banging or hitting which the child may adopt in response to physical and emotional challenges. Basically this behaviour is a way of child to draw attention towards himself. These tantrums typically begins at around 18-36 months of age.
Reason: When a child is unable to complete a task on his own or when a child is denied autonomy over anything he wants, it leads to frustration.The child having limited verbal skills cannot communicate his frustration, and this is channelised or liberated as undesired and aggressive behaviour.


Age: Such behaviour peaks during second and third year and gradually subsides by 3-6 years as the child learns to control negativism.
What should be done?
1. Parents should not get anxious about it, but may need professional counselling.
2. Parents should make a list of situations which induces or stimulates irrational behaviour by the child.
3. Plan strategies to avoid such situations.
4. Ensure that child is rested and fed adequately when at home or on travel.
5. Be calm, firm and consistent during these tantrum episodes.
6. Do not allow child to take undue advantage from such behaviour, as it may reinforce the tantrums further.
7. Child should be protected from injuring herself or others.
8. At an early age, distracting the child from immediate cause can abort the tantrum.
9. Time out, that is allowing the child to be alone for few minutes, can be beneficial.Every child is unique, and so are her ways. Understand the things she can’t say or even comprehend, avoid stress inducing situations, reassure her with your calming presence, and give way to a lasting bond for life.